How to get into a sorority

1) How to get into a sorority:

When speaking of sororities, the only way to get into one is to go through recruitment. Recruitment is a process that is different at every University due to logistical changes, yet essentially the same. Going through recruitment usually entails three stages, including learning about the sororities sisterhood, philanthropy, and living arrangements. After each day of recruitment, you are either called back or not called back. To show the girls that are essentially interviewing you and getting to know you that you should be a part of their sisterhood would be achieved in a few ways. One would be to listen attentively, hold interesting conversation, ask questions and seem genuinely interested, and connect with them on topics that are relevant to the sorority. Present your best self, no cussing, dress nicely, and appear as though you are professional yet personable, but mostly just that you want to be there. It is a two way choice that is decided between you choosing the top houses that you would like to be in and the house choosing you. If both coincide, then you get to come back each consecutive day to go through the next process. Each day gets more and more formal, you spend more time with each chapter, and the tone gets more serious as you delve deeper into the meaning of each sorority. By the last day, if you both choose each other then you will get a “bid”, meaning you have been conditionally invited to join the sisterhood. Because this invitation is conditional, take it seriously! Still put your best foot forward and realize that you have been invited to join something that is sacred to the rest of the group.

Following the conditional invitation is an initiation period. It can last anywhere from a few weeks to a few months, depending on the sorority and their specific rules. The initiation period involves getting acclimated to the sorority, their rules, their founding ideals, secrets, and basically the social rules within the group. After this period, if deemed successful, and if you feel it a right fit, then you will be initiated during a secret ceremony into the sisterhood. The most important thing to do during this part of the process is to make sure that you study! Knowing all you can, passing the tests that are given to you is extremely important. The second most important thing is to participate in absolutely everything you can. This is the stage that you are basically learning the culture of your sorority. This way, you and the sorority that chose you will both be able to tell if it is a right fit before you make it official! Participating will show your interest and also help you to learn the social cues, acceptances, and practices in your chapter. The more you focus on this step, the easier it will be to socialize into the group.


2) How to extend a deeper reach into the sorority:

Activities that are primarily associated with sororities are sisterhood activities, meetings, and mixers.

A sisterhood activity is something that all of the members of the sorority do together. Planned by someone in the sorority, the girls are invited to spend time together doing something they all enjoy to bond more and become a cohesive group. Sometimes, in cases of large sororities, it can even be to meet girls that members haven’t met yet. Mine was over two hundred girls and every sisterhood event gave me a chance to meet sisters that I hadn’t been able to talk to. Going to these and actively and genuinely participating will make you a more prominent member of your chapter as you begin to make relationships with every separate girl. This is where the effort is put in. Be as helpful and respectful as you can, treating this time with the utmost importance!

A meeting is more of the business training side of a sorority. This is where rules come in, as each member must attend these business meetings in order to participate in the social parts of membership. Most meetings are comprised of updates on financials, social events, help needed, and hearing from other chapters and news within their social circle. Dress appropriately for these meetings. You will need business attire, will need to show up on time, and will need to be quiet and take them seriously. The social aspect cannot come without the organization and business aspect of a sorority. By actively involving yourself in these meetings and sharing your perspective, you will automatically feel as though they are of importance, and therefore will be able to respect them and the time that the women in your chapter spend holding them.

A mixer or formal is when a sorority gets together with outside chapters, mainly fraternities, to socialize in some way. Sometimes activities are participated in, while sometimes there is just dancing and food and everybody dresses up. They are usually themed, so make sure to dress up! You will be associated with the group, can take fun pictures, and will have more fun with your date. While most people think that these events are time to go crazy, there can be dire consequences for getting too drunk or causing any trouble. There are legal and safety issues involved when conduct isn’t held to a high standard, and it is imperative to act your best at these events! No matter the amount of time and effort you have put in at this point, there is still the ability to get kicked out of the sorority for conduct that doesn’t match the overall image that it would like to portray.

3) How to make the sorority mean something deeper long term

Being a part of a sorority, there are certain aspects that keep people strongly associated with and interested long term. These are the reasons that one usually chooses to join a sorority, and can be broken up into community service and philanthropy, scholarship, and different leadership positions.

Each sorority has their own cause, or philanthropy that they raise money for. At least once a year, they put together some sort of event to raise money for their philanthropy. My sorority raises money to build strong women, and personally our chapter does that by creating events that raise money for the Girls on the Run program. Beyond that, many sororities also do community service, raising money and donating time and work to designated charities in their city. Getting involved in creating and putting on these events is not only sometimes mandatory, but also something that will tie you to a deeper meaning within a sorority. Knowing that as a group you can do so much good has a powerful feeling once realized. So make sure to understand your philanthropy and the importance of helping to contribute.

Scholarship refers to each chapter’s idea of academic success. Many of them compete against other sororities to have the best GPA, meaning they study together and overall try to help each other do the best they can in their studies. Sign up to study with a sister, tutor a sister, or hold group meetings at a coffee house. Your grades will improve, as well as those around you.

For professional and personal development, sororities can be helpful in that they are self-running. Meaning each chapter elects women to be in charge of certain aspects, and can learn many desirable leadership skills in finances, organization, event planning, or many other different areas of helping a large group to run successfully. If you successfully integrate into the group by doing all the things mentioned above, you will be able to run for and be voted into a position where you can lead other women to have the best experience possible in your own chapter!







One Response to How to get into a sorority

  • richardcolby says:

    You cover a lot of details about the purpose of sororities as well as participating in productive ways within the groups. Although you mention attire a few times (and attire is an important communication strategy), I would have liked additional moments about communicating in sororities. Are there hierarchies? Where does one learn (or research) more about participation? I liked the two headings that you used, but you could have separated them into even more headings.This answers most of the assignment question, but a bit more about communication would have been good.

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